Today we went to church as a part of a new ward. Michael and I were excited to be part of the Aliso Viejo ward. We knew that there were many young couples and we were pumped and ready to make new friends. When we arrived we were amazed at how many young families there were. There were little babies and toddlers everywhere. It was so hard to focus on the speakers because there were so many cute adorable babies to look at. As we ventured off into Sunday School we sat in our usual spot. As sad as it was only one person said hi to us...who might you ask...my old and good friend Ryan Devine and his cute wife Brittany. Then we were off to Relief society. It was here I did a lot of thinking. As I looked around I saw all the young mom's sitting with each other and all the old ladies sitting next to each other...but what about the newly wed sisters without kids? This is when I decided I am in a weird position. A lot of these young moms are my age and if we were in a different setting we would probably be great friends...but throw some kids into the mix and all the sudden I am the outcast. Why is this? I love kids..I am great with kids...I love mom's with kids...they make some of the greatest friends because they know how to keep it real! (If you know what I mean) I find it really funny...I have been very confident and comfortable with myself and who I am since my freshman year of college but now all the sudden I don't know where I belong again...Am I allowed to be there friends? Will they let me join their circle of trust? haha I mean really am I that much different than those with kids? In my eyes...not really. I take care of kids all day..whether it be helping my sister or at work. Will those young mom's find it in their hearts to get to know the awesome person I am and become my friend?!? haha...Only time will tell.
I know that the Lord has blessed Michael and I with the opportunity to be part of this ward for many different reasons. I know it's a great way for us to make great friends and for him to have the opportunity to network with more people for a job. I also know that the Lord has a timeline for everything. So in due time...I know I will have many great and wonderful friends in the Aliso Viejo ward...it just takes time to wiggle your way into those circles of tight nit friends!
3 comments:
It's not cuz you don't have kids. its because you are new and don't have kids. kids are merely moving conversation pieces. It will come to the point where you and the other sisters will find those common conversation pieces and you will be great friends. Their lives revolve around kids... ALL day. So it will take them a little more than one day to figure out a common conversation piece that you share with them. but there will be plenty. i hate being patient. plus. you got us! call us if you want to hang out! oh and if michael is looking for a job with o'neill let me know. their may be a spot for him. (not sure if he is interested or not, just throwing it out there) and it would be really fun to work with someone i know. love ya. later!
It's always hard at first getting into a new ward...let's see...how many new wards have Curt and I been in ... I can't even count. But there are always GREAT people there and you will make great friends. :) I am always a little discouraged at first when I move into a ward, especially if nobody comes to welcome you. That's why I try to always make it a point to introduce myself to new people bc I've been in their shoes way too many times. Just get out there and "do it" :) (I know it's a drag, but there's always curt and me to hang out with) :)
i honestly felt exactly the same way. I felt like an outsider, but i just started to invite myself to things, because people are not considerate and they do not think to reach out to people, so anyways i feel your pain. the day after our first sunday i cried, so anyways i hope that you feel better about it! i will be your friend!
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